Getting married should be a fabulous event
and must always be celebrated regardless of how many times you say “I
Do!” So whether it’s your first trip down the aisle or an
unforgettable encore, it’ll be that magical moment to devote
yourself to the person you love. For those of you repeating your vows
after a divorce, or loss of a spouse, this wedding doesn’t have to
be any less special than your first wedding. At the same time,
because you’ve been married before, you may want to take the
opportunity to change the traditional old script and make it unique
to you, as a new couple. On the other hand, it may be your fiance’s
first wedding and a more traditional format may be best.
💸 Consider Your Finances
Life likely changed a bit since your first matrimonial rodeo, right? That includes your income and your savings, for better or worse! You’ve got to make sure you’re financially solid before planning the big day. Expenses can really pile up when you are starting a fresh new start with someone. Then again, some time has passed since you were married before so you may be earning more income, found a well-off financially fiance, or you are just in a better place financially. If that’s the case, good for you! Then planning a second wedding should be a little easier this time around.
For the rest of us, sit down with your fiance, chat about your goals, and decide what’s realistic for your wedding celebration. No pressure, just pure excitement! Understand your needs versus wants, and make it special for you both. More likely that not, the wedding won’t be your only big financial outlay coming up with your new life partner, so you’ll need to budget accordingly.
💰 Spend Wisely, Darling!
A second wedding is a second chance to do it right. How about swapping the grand ballroom for a dreamy vacation spot? A cozy registry wedding with close friends and family could do the trick. Then, whisk away to a couple-friendly destination for some quality time together. Much more manageable than feeding a hundred acquaintances, am I right?
If this is your partner’s first wedding, they might want a more traditional celebration. Discuss everything openly, and find a compromise that makes you both happy. Save on outfits by renting or buying during off-season sales, and trust me, your bank account will thank you!
📝 Plan Your Guest List with Care
Repeat after me: only invite the people who matter! Some folks from your first wedding might end up here again, and it’s not unrealistic to think that they’re likely to bring less impressive gifts this time around. Stick to your near and dear ones if you want to be more economical. You’re not here to impress the world. Stay focused on celebrating with those who genuinely care about you or your future spouse.
👶 Do You Have Kiddos?
If you or your partner got little ones from your previous relationships, they will be a huge part of your new beginning. Think about how this new chapter impacts them. Their age and feelings should be considered when planning your wedding. You might want a smaller, more intimate event to keep things comfortable for them.
Also, make special arrangements for times when you’ll be busy honeymooning or enjoying couple time. Think about gifting assets to your children and ensure you’re meeting your responsibilities. It’s a sensitive issue, but planning both emotionally and financially is key.
Should We Spend More or Less on a Second or Third Wedding?
At the end of the day, this is YOUR wedding, and you call the shots. As a couple, you need to decide whether to keep it short and sweet with a simple registry wedding or go all out with a grand affair. Between you and your partner, decide whether or not you will have a large or small budget for your wedding based on your current finances and what you want in a second wedding. Whatever you choose, always keep your budget and future plans in mind. And remember, never let peer pressure ruin your happiness. Cheers to new love, second chances, and new beginnings!
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